Women, Flirting, and Marriage

This is going to be an awkward post for me, and trying to get my point (if there is one - or maybe I will be just bragging) across to you.

I have been married for 16 wonderful years and have been blessed (cursed?) with four kids. My wife is my high school sweetheart, and I only "dated" one other lady in HS, prior to my wife. But once that ring goes on the finger, I couldn't believe the number of women that would talk/flirt/ask me out. I mean, before I was like a leper, but once that ring went on, I could have had a date any night of the week!

Needless to say, I flirted back with the women that flirted with me, and the Wife knew what was going on. She had no issue with it as long as it stayed just friendly flirting. Which, trust me, was as far as I wanted it go for my own purposes. I made some friends, I lost some friends - you know how times change as do minor acquaintances and places you hang out.

Over the years, I have met many people, from a variety of venues. Lately, I have started to wonder how does that "charm" or whatever ya wanna call it, inside me attracts them, that makes them want to do things FOR me, not necessarily TO me. I mean, c'mon. I am a heavy-set guy, with average looks; I been told I got a damn good voice; I am generally friendly and open. Normally, a guy like me would be the one a woman would sort of just glance over - or maybe spend little time talking to whilst waiting for someone else better looking or something.

But I've got a secret something I can't figure out. Women just LIKE me. I don't mean Like/Lust, or love/lust, or maybe not just lust ... but they do things for me. For example, this last weekend I had one of the bartenders at my regular hangout make me cookies. And not just cookies, but my favorites Macadamian White Chocolate, AND Chocolate Chip. This was not the first time she has done that. Hell, I had a patron of the bar one night come in with Macadamian cookies for me, and I didn't even know her, but she heard I liked those kind of cookies.

Cookies are great! I never would turn them down, but that is not all I get. I get offers of rides home after I been drinking - even if it is out of their way. Okay, maybe they just want me to be safe. I have had offers for trips for a day or two to somewhere out of town (not a chance). Every now and then I get a little present of some sort. And then there are the women that I talk with, that some flirt, and others just like talking to me, and I mean more than just being someone sitting at a bar for them to talk to.

Here's the one I really like. Women bartenders really piss off my friends. Four of us can walk into any one of the handful or so regular bars we go to, and the bartender comes over to take our order, with my drinks in hand. Then actually asks them what they want. I love it! Maybe that means I am a drunk and I visit there to often.... no! It's cause they like me.

Maybe I am just being conceited, and I would gladly listen to any of my friends dispute any of this... but I do get that preferential treatment 90% of the time. I get more hugs than I can count. Cookies, presents, etc. what more do I need to say?

Conceited? Possibly.

Fictitious? No way.

Loving every minute of it? You betcha!

Think I be lying? Good luck trying to prove it!

PeacE

US Citizen ALERT!!! Time is Ticking Down!!

Tick, Tock, Tick, Tock. I know that you need to have your taxes postmarked by today to receive no penalties!! It's about 10am here so that leaves just under 14 hours to rush them tax forms to the Downtown post office, the only one that will stay open til midnight to date stamp for you damn procrastinators! The Wife is dropping ours off on her way to work, or rather did, this morning. I was surprised, but this year we actually get money back. I told her it was because I was out of work several months last year, but she doesn't think so... duh! No work, no pay. I am glad though, that I don't own a business, or have to pay employee taxes, etc. Without a CPA or Accountant to do that for ya, it would have to be a mess. Huh Tony?

Mark has volunteered to be the 2nd Questioner. He asks, "If you could have the chance to meet one living person, who would it be?" I took a few minutes prior to posting today to think on this one. If I could meet 1 living person, I would hope that living person is me! But if other people were alive, I would answer my grandparents on Dad's side. Both of them are getting up in the years, and it has been several years since we have visited. I grew up learning much from my Dad, and my grandparents, and seeing them now would be a good thing. As far as someone famous to meet ... show me someone that is not busy doing what makes them famous, and we'd probably have a good time. One person that has passed away I would have loved to meet - Mark Twain. Especially in his later years. I love his style of humor.

So feel free to keep on asking if there's anyone wanting to know anything. This is an open thing on-going, never-ending, unless I am that boring. Meantime, I am headed over to the list on the right and doing my reads. Be sure to check out that list - sometimes it gets added to daily.

Y'all have a good one! I am heading out for beer and video golf tonight. Supposed to get me some more cookies this week too from my favorite bartender - Hey Pude!

PeacE

Questions Answered - People Shocked

Welcome to Friday! Best damn work day of the week, except I have to stay here all day, with nothing to do it seems. Supposedly, production is to increase very proportionately today, but I have yet to see anything. It won' get to my desk until sometime next week if I am lucky.

It's nice to know sometimes in the blogging world that someone actually pays attention to what one person says. On that note, I promise to quit stalking you HB. I was using that term more for the possible search hits, but none happened for "stalking". ::sigh:: But some day I may take you up on the 411 just to satisfy curiosity, but now would rather read some more of your writing...

Dazd - central Indiana - got your attention. Should have, that's where you are too. And MJG, and Freddie, but she's a bit more north. Funny how many people I have picked up on reading are from the Indiana area. God I miss home. I'd rather have the snow than the 110+ degree heat - the 30 minute drive to the grocery store in the county seat, rather than 1 1/2 hour on 4 lane freeway to travel across the valley from work to home in rush hour. Yeah, Indiana over Arizona any day.

This brings us to the very FIRST question I have been asked. MrsJoseGolbloom has the indisputable honor of this blog's new event. She asks : What are the 3 things that irritate you most, and why?

1. Stupid People. I cannot tolerate, or have any patience with a person that does not have the intelligence, or the sense to care enough about whatever the conversation may be. Ninety percent of the time, it is a fellow employee trying to impress me with everything he knows about interest rates, etc. I politely look at them and say "Go sit at your fucking desk, and only come talk to me when you have actually closed a single loan."

2. Talking on the phone. I have never been one that can sit on the phone for hours on end talking about nothing. Most of my calls are like Hey, it's R. What night we playing poker? Tues? 7? Cool. I 'll bring some beer. PeacE." My wife hates that I can convey all that info into like 6 grunts and a "Wassup!". Even at work, I am off the phone as fast as possible. I am not here to kiss some title company's ass in California to get my loan closed in NY. Do your job well, and I might send you a $50 dinner card to some restaurant there, but I am still not talking extra on the phone. The only time I can think of where I would be on the phone a lot, was when the Wife and I were dating, but 85% of that time, it was silence as either of was trying to think of some thing to talk about.

3. Crumbs in Bed. With a 1 year old, and a dog, it is almost impossible for me to go to sleep at night without having to strip the blankets from the bed, and sweep off the days accumulation of cracker crumbs, dog food bits, hair, whatever the dog tracks in, other food crumbs, etc. Since I usually am the last to bed, the Wife, I think, sweeps it all to my side so I have to do it each night. There's nothing more irritating than taking a shower, then laying down and rolling over and feeling all that crap on the sheet, or falling off you. UGH!

There are the three main things that irritate me. Other than that, I am generally a pretty likable guy. Thanks for playing! Anyone else wanna go next?

PeacE

100 things about me - Bullshit!

I have just spent the last 45 minutes trying to complete one of those lists where you just jot out 100 things about yourself. I am on #41. And all I can draw are blanks. How do people actually finish those things?

Hell, who would want to know that much about me? After all I think it was a buddy, Jan, that said whe I listed just 5 things about me, he said he wasn't sure he would have wanted to know, but now it was too late - he saw the list! Bastid! j/k

So, if anyone is interested, ask me anyquestion you want regarding anything. Every question gets an answer even if I don't know it, or I say I am not answering. Some things are meant to stay quiet (like the number of guys in Lake Michigan with cement boots). Topics are endless, be sure you phrase it correctly, and I will answer next time I am on. This is not justa one day thing.. it can go on for as longs as anyone wants to ask.

PeacE